2024 0825 給丹丹的祝福：滿足 Fulfillment
2024 0825 給丹丹的祝福：滿足 Fulfillment
給迫不及待，等不及約好的時間，提前到來的丹丹 ~
年輕的妳，很有自己的想法與主張；妳，不迷惘，不慌張，妳只是想找一個人聽妳說，聽妳訴，聽到妳的心聲而已。
妳覺得，年輕，最大的本錢是時間、精神和體力。這點我非常認同的。所以妳想趁著年輕，多賺錢，不想花費太多時間和金錢在玩樂上面，這點，實在是讓我太佩服妳了。
想當年，在妳這樣花樣年華的年紀，與同事週六的約會和玩耍，可是我認為人生的重頭戲呢。
有著成熟思想的妳認為，年輕，腦子記憶力較好，反應較快，應該用來學習、累積與思考。
所以妳不太跟朋友外出，這就造成了今日的困擾，朋友們覺得妳不好搞，妳希望朋友能懂妳的渴望和企圖。
記得我當下跟妳說 ~
『妳的生活，是妳的，朋友的生活，是朋友的。』
『每個人的背景條件不同，這是先天給的；每個人想要的生活不同，這是後天自己想要的。』
妳認同了這些話，可仍陷在感覺與朋友格格不入的氛圍裡。
然後我接著跟妳分享了自己的人生 ~
我覺『年輕呀，正是適合努力往前衝的年紀呢。』
每個人想要衝去的方向不同而已。
我有朋友喜愛旅遊，可以把薪水、時間和心力都用在旅遊，樂此不疲；而我有點相反，我喜歡穩定，旅遊很美好，對我來說卻不會很常安排。
每個人對生活、對樂趣、對人生意義都有不一樣的看法與想要完成的人生使命。
不管是如何，都很好。
我也曾經遇到朋友認為我和他們其他人沒有話聊，聚會時，即使我只是坐在旁邊聽他們說，他們也覺我礙眼。於是，他們有些聚會沒有找我了。
當我知道時，有點難過，不過更多的是鬆了一口氣。
我知道這群朋友很好，所以我捨不得離開，但終究別人幫我做了這個分離的決定，我就順著這個勢，疏離淡去。
這就是所謂的〝道不同，不相為謀〞。
彼此之間說不到一塊，那就別勉強雙方了。
『會有那麼一群跟妳志同道合的人，在前方不遠處等著妳。』
『也許懂妳的，可以跟妳一起成長交流的朋友，在新世界，就等妳去找到。』
我記得我最後是這樣跟丹丹妳說的。
妳的笑有點沒有精神，因妳捨不得現在這群朋友。
這就是丹丹誤會我的意思了。
我總認為，朋友有很多種，也有很多不同階段還是層級。
不是分高低，不是分親疏蜜離。
我還有跟丹丹說這些話，不知道妳有記得嗎？
『妳會知道有些朋友適合一起做甚麼，有些事情適合哪些朋友。』
『不是將朋友分種類，或分級，而是每位出現在我們身邊的朋友，他們對我們人生影響的事情 是不同的。』
我喜歡跟朋友相聚，因為跟朋友一起開懷大笑，讓我覺得生命很好，日子很好，人生很好，歲月靜好。
『我知道很多朋友只能陪伴自己一段時間，無法長久，無法一輩子。』
所以我總是珍惜〝當下〞、〝現在〞。
相聚時，專注，用心。
工作時，認真，奮鬥。
學習時，投入，努力。
人生由許多階段連接而成，生活由不同面向組合而成，日子是綜合的寶箱，而非單一口味的獨屬盒。
偶爾跟朋友出去玩玩，放鬆，也不錯。
大部分時間想要學習、累積，讓自己未來爬得更高，走得更遠，這志向，更好。
加油 ~ ！
妳的人生調色由妳自己決定。
送給妳的塔羅祝福：【滿足 Fulfillment】。
來自宇宙的訊息，這是一張情感的塔羅牌，提醒丹丹，珍惜朋友的關心，她們可能是希望妳在努力的路途上，也可同時間享有友情的潤澤，家人的關心與照顧。當妳退一步去思考朋友的出發點時，妳就會察覺到妳身在充滿愛與關懷裡，心中是滿滿的幸福。
2024-08-25 Blessings to Dandan: Fulfillment
To the eager Dandan who arrives early, unable to wait for the agreed-upon time~
As a young person, you have your own thoughts and opinions. You are not confused or flustered; you simply want someone to listen to you, to hear your stories, and to understand your innermost feelings.
You believe that the greatest assets of youth are time, energy, and physical strength. I completely agree with this perspective. That's why you want to take advantage of your youth to earn more money and are reluctant to spend too much time and money on entertainment. I truly admire this about you.
Back in the day, when I was your age, I considered outings and weekend gatherings with colleagues as the highlights of life. However, with your mature mindset, you believe that while young, with a sharper memory and quicker reflexes, you should focus on learning, accumulating knowledge, and reflecting on life. As a result, you don't go out much with friends, which has led to today's troubles—your friends find you difficult to connect with, while you wish they could understand your desires and ambitions.
I remember telling you then: "Your life is yours, and your friends' lives are theirs." "Everyone has different circumstances, which are given by nature; everyone desires a different kind of life, which is what they strive for later."
You agreed with these words but still felt out of sync with your friends.
Then I shared my own life experiences with you: I believe that youth is the time to strive forward with all your might. Everyone just has different directions they want to pursue. I have friends who love traveling and can devote their salaries, time, and energy to it without getting tired. I'm somewhat the opposite; I prefer stability. Travel is wonderful, but I don't plan it often. Everyone has different perspectives on life, fun, and the meaning of life and different missions they want to accomplish. No matter what, it's all good.
I've also had friends who felt they had nothing to talk about with me. Even if I just sat beside them, listening, they found me annoying. So, some of their gatherings didn't include me. When I found out, I was a bit sad but more relieved. I knew these friends were great, so I was reluctant to leave, but in the end, they made the decision for me to part ways, and I just went with the flow, gradually drifting apart. This is what they call "different paths, no mutual plans." If you can't see eye to eye, don't force either side.
"There will be a group of like-minded people waiting for you not far ahead." "Perhaps friends who understand you, who can grow and exchange ideas with you, are waiting for you in a new world."
I remember saying this to you at the end.
Your smile seemed a bit spiritless because you were reluctant to let go of your current group of friends. That’s where you misunderstood me. I always believe there are many kinds of friends and different stages or levels. It's not about ranking higher or lower or being closer or more distant.
Did you remember I also told you this? "You will know which friends are suitable for what activities, and what things are suitable for which friends." "It's not about categorizing or grading friends but recognizing that each friend who appears around us has a different impact on our lives."
I enjoy gathering with friends because laughing heartily with them makes me feel life is good, the days are good, life is great, and the years are peaceful. "I know many friends can only accompany me for a while, not forever, not for a lifetime." So, I always cherish the "present" and the "now."
When gathering, I focus and put my heart into it. When working, I am serious and strive hard. When learning, I dedicate myself and work diligently. Life is composed of many stages; living consists of different facets; the days are a comprehensive treasure chest, not a single-flavored exclusive box.
Occasionally going out to play and relax with friends is also good. Spending most of your time learning and accumulating, aiming to climb higher and go further in the future, is an even better ambition.
Keep it up~! The colors of your life are yours to choose.
Here is a tarot blessing for you: Fulfillment.
A message from the universe, this is a card of emotions, reminding you, Dandan, to cherish the care of your friends. They may wish for you to enjoy the nourishment of friendship and the care and support of family even while striving on your path. When you take a step back and consider your friends' perspectives, you'll realize you're surrounded by love and care, and your heart will be filled with happiness.
