2024 0826 給霜霜的祝福：負面性 Negativity
2024 0826 給霜霜的祝福：負面性 Negativity
即將成為新娘的霜霜
聽到妳滿是煩躁的心情，沒有了即將成為新娘的喜悅和幸福，有點替妳擔心。
妳說，剛跟父母吵了架，為了婚禮。
可，妳自己知道，父母的建議才是好的。
妳就是感到很煩，胸口很堵，很想大聲地發脾氣，可又找不到正當理由，所以就只能在討論婚禮的事情上，找大家的麻煩。
妳說，妳擔心著婚禮還沒舉行，大家的情感都吵散了。
我問了妳，當初答應結婚的決定是什麼？
妳說，男友想結婚，雙方談了未來的一些事情，妳回家問妳爸媽的意思，家人也覺是結婚的好時機，所以妳也就答應。
我說，以為是因男友求婚浪漫，當下衝動Say了”Yes”。
妳說，妳自己是個理智的人，求婚感覺也沒多浪漫，且妳不喜歡很多人注視下的求婚，還好妳男友夠了解妳，沒有做這些安排，不然妳可能當場的反應會傷到很多人的心，情況會變得很尷尬。
我問，結婚，為何讓妳覺得很煩？是婚禮的瑣碎覺得厭煩？還是其他什麼？
妳說，妳也不知道，就感覺結婚後，妳不能再成為妳，光是想到這點就覺煩躁不已。
我再深入地詢問，妳說，結了婚後，沒有了自由，像是被綁住，無法呼吸。
我微笑著跟妳回應說，我單身，沒有類似經驗的可跟妳分享。不過從家人、朋友、電視、小說裡，有記得一些事情可以分享。
聊到後來，妳說了一句話，我笑了出來。
妳說，妳知道了，妳陷入了煩躁的情緒裡，但沒有好好想過到底為什麼煩躁，所以好像問題很多，其實，現在冷靜想想，原本糾結的事情，有些，連”事”都稱不上，根本就不是問題。
最後我們的結論就是，溝通，跟現在的未婚夫，未來的老公溝通。
妳跟男友之間的愛很濃，妳擔心婚後吵架會把情感吵薄了，可忘了先思考你們會為什麼事情吵架？吵架之前，是否有什麼想法，就提出來先討論，互相了解呢。
最後，妳說，今晚可以好好睡覺了。
然後我們就結束了談話。
妳，感覺像是位女漢子，一但不糾結，就放下。這樣的個性，挺好。
送給妳祝福的塔羅牌：【負面性Negativity】。
來自宇宙的訊息是，提醒碧霜，遇到糾結的事情時，負面思緒和情緒會先慣性地湧現，這部分要注意。在發生這樣的情況時，適時地與相關的人進行討論、分享，有助於卡住的思緒或情緒。
預祝霜霜 新婚幸福 百年好合！
2024-08-26 Blessings to Bishuang:
Dear Bishuang, who is about to become a bride,
Hearing your anxious feelings, lacking the joy and happiness of becoming a bride, I feel a bit worried for you.
You mentioned that you just had an argument with your parents about the
wedding.
But you know that your parents' suggestions are well-intentioned.
You just feel annoyed, like there's a weight on your chest, wanting to vent
loudly but without a proper reason, so you end up taking it out on the wedding
discussions.
You said you're worried that even before the wedding happens, everyone's
emotions will already be scattered by the arguments.
I asked you, what was your initial reason for agreeing to get married?
You said your boyfriend wanted to get married. Both of you talked about the future, you went home and asked your parents' opinion, and your family also thought it was a good time to get married, so you agreed.
I thought it was because of a romantic proposal from your boyfriend, and in a moment of impulse, you said "Yes."
You replied that you are a rational person and the proposal wasn’t particularly
romantic. Moreover, you don’t like being the center of attention during a
proposal. Fortunately, your boyfriend knows you well and didn’t plan anything
like that; otherwise, your reaction might have hurt many feelings, making
things awkward.
I asked why getting married makes you feel so annoyed. Is it the
trivialities of the wedding that you find frustrating, or something else?
You said you don’t really know; you just feel that after getting married, you
can no longer be yourself, and just thinking about it makes you feel uneasy.
I probed a little deeper, and you said that after marriage, there would be no more freedom, like being tied down and unable to breathe.
I smiled and responded that, as a single person, I don’t have similar experiences to share. However, from family, friends, TV, and novels, I do recall some things that might be worth sharing.
As our conversation continued, you said something that made me laugh out
loud.
You mentioned that you realized you were caught up in your anxious emotions
without really thinking about why, so it seemed like there were many problems.
However, upon calmly reflecting, some of the things that were troubling you
weren’t even real "issues" at all.
Our final conclusion was communication—communicating with your current
fiancé, your future husband.
The love between you and your boyfriend is strong. You worry that arguments
after marriage might dilute your feelings, but you forgot to consider what you
might argue about. Before arguing, why not bring up your thoughts and discuss
them openly to better understand each other?
In the end, you said you could finally have a good night's sleep tonight.
And then we ended our conversation.
You seemed like a strong woman, someone who, once they let go, truly lets go.
That’s a great personality to have.
The Tarot card drawn for you: Negativity.
The message from the universe is to remind you, Bishuang, that when you
encounter tangled situations, negative thoughts and emotions might habitually
surface first, and you should be mindful of this. When this happens, it is
helpful to discuss and share with the relevant people to clear the blocked
thoughts or emotions.
Wishing you a happy marriage and a lifetime of love!
